Why Am I So Tired All Of The Time?

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I’ve not written much lately. This is partly for a number of reasons. Firstly, I want to slow down my input with regards to this blog. Secondly, I’ve been away and finally I just feel so tired all of the time.

In fact, it has become such a major part of my daily living I’m wondering if I can include it on my CV as an occupation or a hobby. When tiredness hits it’s all I can think about. Nothing can get me to focus on anything else. I become tired and that is who I am, a man who is tired and needs sleep.

No crazy routines

Keith's Story - Male Victim of Domestic Abuse & Depression Why Am I So Tired All Of The Time?

I’m not following any crazy schedules or working late shifts anymore. I’m making a conscious effort to eat better. But I now find I could fall asleep should the opportunity arise. I wake at a normal hour of the morning then find myself dropping off to sleep again after a short while.

I am aware that coffee and sweet foods can have an impact upon my sleeping patterns. However, I have now cut out sugar from my drinks and I have reduced my coffee intake to about two cups a day.

Stressful situations

Of course, you are aware that I have recently come out of a stressful situation but there are other stresses still going on (that I will talk about another time). But nothing much has changed. I do feel better about myself but this is undoubtedly due to the medication and the coming to the end of my counselling.

I recently had a blood test for something unrelated and nothing was highlighted. I’ve had no change in my medication. So, what on earth is going on?

Keith's Story - Male Victim of Domestic Abuse & Depression Why Am I So Tired All Of The Time?

Is there a connection?

I spoke to a medical friend about this and she drew an interesting comparison. She suggested that the psychological stresses that I had experienced – including the acquittal at court, may now be having a physical output. I am aware that I have been very near to breaking point and only kept it together because of support. But my physical health has clearly been side-lined.

I’m getting more than the minimum requirements of sleep. I find that I’m getting between 8-10 hours a night then at least a few hours during the day.

Keith's Story - Male Victim of Domestic Abuse & Depression Why Am I So Tired All Of The Time?

Recently, I have suffered with back pains and the odd leg cramps. My belly has returned and my skin does not look as clear as it used to. So a lot of what was said makes sense. But I don’t know what to do about it. I’ve had time away and I’m getting back into reading again (of which I have always enjoyed).

Simple on-line research

Following some simple research, I discovered that physical tiredness also brings about the following:

Feeling drained mentally and physically – Literally everything involves an effort. As stated I could drop off to sleep whenever I get the opportunity.

Inability to bounce back – This has been the case for a while now. I have previously written that I have no emotions whatsoever. This has still not changed. I’m not saying I am emotionally void, it’s just that I see a little more perspective on things and so don’t get so involved in things anymore.

Headaches – These come and go but nothing blindingly bad.

Joint pain – I have had horrendous back pain for nearly a week now. I have no idea what has caused it but it has been slow to disappear.

Depression – Goes without saying.

Poor short-term memory – I often have difficulty recalling what I had to eat yesterday but I could tell you in great detail events that happened years ago.

Weight gain – My belly has come back. I worked hard to lose it a while ago but there it is, it’s back.

Any suggestions?

Now, I know I’m not being a hypochondriac and hope that this will just go away, but following recent events I don’t want to see my GP again. I’m sure she must be fed up of me by now.


4 Replies to “Why Am I So Tired All Of The Time?”

  1. Hello, Keith. Here’s a suggestion for the leg cramps. Eat banana’s or take magnesium.
    Another suggestion is this… Stop beating yourself up over the fact that you are so tired. Your body is telling you “It needs rest.” You just came out of a very difficult time in your life and between the pent up anxiety and being so high strung over the situation, has mentally & physically drained you.
    All of this is validated. Please take care of yourself and your body as a whole. Nap if need be. You will get past this, I assure you.
    If you need to vent, contact me.
    I know exactly how you feel when you are overly exhausted.
    Take Care, Beckie

  2. Hi Keith,

    I have no significant advice to offer because I struggle (suffer) the same as you. I sleep a lot and nap sometimes twice per day. I will nap right up to 1/2 hour before I have to go to work, then I’m up after work for about 4 hours. I go to bed, sleep 8 to 10 hours, then I’m good for about 4 to 5 hours, then nap. I get up from a nap and I’m good for 2 or 3 hours, then nap before work. I think I sleep 2/3 of my life away. For me, I believe the main reason is that I just have nothing exciting or worth enough to keep me from being tired. I could be wrong, but when something unusually exciting takes place, I have no trouble staying awake.

    In part, I believe there are several minor factors that combine into one major factor. First is boredom, then depression, then anxiety, then worry, then diet, then exercise, then coffee. I’ve managed to manage all of this, still sleeping 2/3 of my life away. One day when something very exciting happens in my life, if ever, I will probably make some changes to my sleeping routine that will become more permanent to suit whatever might be exciting, if ever. I don’t dwell on it because sleep and naps feels SO good that I don’t readily want to make any changes. If I make changes now, I will be committed to living a very boring and exhausting life. My bed is my best friend. I love my pillow, too.

    As for back pain, perhaps you are like me with poor posture while at the computer? I tend to sit hunched over which causes mid to upper pain in my spine. It also causes pulled muscles and pinched nerves in my back. As for muscle cramps, I have the same problem, so I take potassium. Someone mentioned magnesium. I’ve not tried magnesium but would like to give that a try. Potassium works for me. I also take Vitamin D3 to help with depression, but more specifically for health organs. Many, many, many people have low Vitamin D3 which isn’t healthy at all. Without it a person can die. We usually don’t get enough sun to catch natural Vitamin D. The sun gives up the real Vitamin D that humans can’t manufacture. We are close, but not the real thing. So, I actually had to move to a sunny location near or below the 35th parallel on our planet. Since then my skin and organs began to regenerate. The doctors told me that I have a choice to either live in the north and die, or move to a sunny location near or below the 35th parallel. I needed the real Vitamin D from the sun. The human manufactured Vitamin D wasn’t enough, even though I still take manufactured Vitamin D3. They put me on 50,000 IU per week. The body will flush out what it doesn’t need. Mine was so low they literally wondered why I was still alive. They told me people die with more Vitamin D than what I had in me at the time.

    Anyway, maybe some Vitamin D3 and some sun for you?

    As for me, I’m not overly concerned about being tired because I’ve been that way for years, but especially when I lived in the north with low Vitamin D and very little sun. So, that’s all I can suggest for you to try. Hopefully it will help you.

    I am actually going to lay down and take a nap right after posting this. 🙂 I woke up 5 hours ago (9:00am) after 10 hours of sleep, and it’s time for a nap already. I’ll lay down for 2 hours (1:00pm to 3:00pm) and then be up for another 6 to 8 hours (9:00pm to 11:00pm). Then it’s another 8 to 10 hours of sleep until morning again. I do this every day. -I hope you find a cure for your dilemma of being tired. I wouldn’t worry too much about it, though, unless it’s effecting your work and income.

    I wish you the best, friend.

  3. Dearest Beckie and Hal

    It’s crazy really but although we have never met I count you as dear friends.

    Thank you both for your advice. After careful thought I have decided to go and see a doctor perhaps next week. It is only now that I am getting a little bit concerned because people are now telling me that I look ill.

    I absolutely appreciate your comments and trust that one day i will be there for you also.


  4. Hi Keith. I call it ‘the limbic lag’. You have just come out of a situation where you were under an enourmous amount of stress. Your amagdyla was switched ‘on’ and you were in a ‘fight or flight’ situation and you reacted accordingly – stress causes an increase in cortisol and inflammation, depression and anxiety – to mention a few. Your brain is working hard and fast… running a million miles an hour…. This takes a lot of energy! However, your limbic system & your body take more time to catch up with your brain. Sometimes it can take months and months before you feel like you are ‘back to normal’ again. So, slow down. Do things which look after you. Self care. Meditate, mindfulness, visualisation. Exercise. Eat better. Take time out. Allow yourself time to catch up with ‘you’ and heal. All the best with trusting your journey. Dancing Queen.

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