Formal complaint to the police

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Well, I’ve finally done it. I’ve made a formal complaint to the Independent Police Complaints Commission (IPCC).

I just can’t let it get the better of me

Initially I was going to leave it all alone, lick my wounds and move on. But I finally decided to address what I saw as an injustice. This injustice has made me so angry and consumed so much energy that my disappointment is almost nuclear.

Failure of police duties

Keith's Story - Male Victim of Domestic Abuse & Depression Formal complaint to the police

Firstly, I researched the background to my complaint on line and discovered that there is a clause called ‘Direction and Control’. As my complaint is not about a specific officer, but is about their lack of ability to recognise a male victim of abuse this option seems to fit the complaint better. They physically chose to ignore hard evidence given to them and failed to recognise the signs when shown to them. They utterly failed in their duty to protect and serve the community they claim to represent.

Although the form was fairly easy to find (, the form was pretty unremarkable. There was very little specific space to write what my complaint was about so I wrote down everything in the boxes I had available. I pity the poor person who has to process what I have written but it was cathartic to pound the keys on this keyboard expressing my frustrations at the lack of ‘policemanship’ and the experience of prejudice based on my gender.

Highlighted points

Keith's Story - Male Victim of Domestic Abuse & Depression Formal complaint to the police

My motive, if you like, about my complaint was six fold.

Firstly, I wanted to highlight the utter lack of interest in my allegations against her. No officer had or has ever asked about my considerations or experience both before, during or after the event.

Secondly, they failed to follow up any evidence I had supplied to them. How on earth can their actions therefore be considered unbiased?

Thirdly, it appears that they went for the easier option of harassing the male rather than getting their hands dirty on the truth of the matter – the female was the abuser with a history of abuse. Her allegations had no grounding or evidence but they still attempted to pursue a prosecution.

Fourthly, when I spoke to an officer about my allegations he did not take a single note. I advised him that I was aware that he had not written anything and he became clearly embarrassed that I had noted this.

Fifthly, the police’s action (or inaction) nearly cost me job and reputation. Although I will never expect a real apology about this, they must realise the consequence of their actions when they opt to pick and choose what ever evidence they want, regardless of the dubious nature of it.

And finally, following my acquittal there has been no explanation why it was allowed to go that far when even my abuser’s solicitor indicated it was a hopeless case. This must have cost the tax payer thousands when from the outset there was no case to answer.

From one to the next

Keith's Story - Male Victim of Domestic Abuse & Depression Formal complaint to the police

Following my acquittal it has played on my mind that she has been allowed to do this unhindered. Not only to myself but to other ex-partners also. I have always had the belief that as an adult you should be held responsible for your actions. Yet, it appears that this is not the case if the police can either not be bothered or see it as being too complicated to deal with. How I see it is that if a male is involved he must therefore, be guilty, regardless of any counter evidence that is supplied.

No doubt it will be ignored

This is wrong and although I doubt anything will come of my complaint I feel I need to say something. I have previously said that it is a shame people don’t come with a label. But it appears they do. If you are a male and found guilty then you are put on what is known as ‘Claire’s Register’.   Although, in essence I don’t have a problem with this it appears to be heavily weighted against men.

This whole experience has signalled that this is the case. She made a false allegation and has not had to answer for her crimes. It is people like this who need to be put on a register so men can be protected from her. Isn’t this the same principle behind women who make false rape allegations. The male always appears to be named before any allegations are disproved and so it seems to continue.

What will be the reality?

Keith's Story - Male Victim of Domestic Abuse & Depression Formal complaint to the police

Of course, let’s get real. My complaint, like everything I have done since, will fall on deaf ears and be talked about behind closed doors. The reality of getting any proper closure to this is very unlikely. The talk of justice will no doubt be mentioned but will never bear fruit. I am not being naïve but I do think some sort of record needs to made about an individual who continually makes false allegations.



4 Replies to “Formal complaint to the police”

  1. WOW!!! You opened my eyes.
    Yet, I can see this happen. When I called my own father’s police force to break up a physical altercation between my father & mother, they would not take the complaint.
    Terribly sad.

  2. Hi Keith,

    I think you were very brave going to the police as nowadays more men are being abused and accused of horrendous allegations by women just so that person can get revenge for whatever reason. You should be proud of yourself for showing everyone that men are accused of false allocations and that this cannot go unnoticed by the law. If a woman or a man accuses someone of abuse and it is not true then the person who told these lies should be charged and be made to face a court etc.. Just like the innocent person could have faced. Lifes get ruined and torn apart from false allegations and accuser needs to be punished just as much as guilty people. The police need to treat every individual the same. Keith be proud and hold head high as you are hopefully going to change the law on people making false allocations.

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