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Regrets

Regrets. It’s such a simple word that holds so many meanings but it appears to be a word of self-reflection ...
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Nightmares

I recall as a child often waking in the night after a nightmare. After all of these years I cannot ...
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Injustice Is Allowed To Continue

I awoke this morning recalling a moment many years ago that happened when I was at school. Yes, it was ...
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The Benefits Of Saying No

I’ve had a realisation today that may have been responsible for most of my problems. I have always found it ...
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Physical Pain and Anxiety

I have recently written a couple of blogs about feelings post stressful situations. If you recall I wrote about not ...
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Why Am I So Tired All Of The Time?

I’ve not written much lately. This is partly for a number of reasons. Firstly, I want to slow down my ...
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Just Feeling A Little…Lost

If you are a regular follower of my blogs you will probably have noticed that I have slowed down somewhat ...
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Pessimism. Who Needs It? What Could Possibly Be The Attractions?

I’ve had an interesting day today. I had an interview for a job which went surprisingly well, although I probably ...
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Is Feeling Nothing An Emotion?

Is it right to feel nothing? I have held off from writing this particular blog. It’s not a negative one ...
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What It Feels Like To Want To Die

It wasn’t really a request that has drawn me to my keyboard today but a series of conversations that I ...
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This Is My Advice

It’s been a funny week. A lot has happened. I am aware that for a few people it has been ...
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Enough Is Enough

It’s 23:55 here in England as I write this blog. Yes, it is late for me as I love my ...
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Making Sense Of It All

To have an identity. As a child it doesn’t really matter, as a teenager it’s everything but as an adult ...
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People With Depression.

It recently dawned on me that I’m part of an exclusive club. I don’t wear a badge or carry a ...
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Police Failure

I absolutely love writing. I also pride myself in writing fair and unbiased opinions. However, this won’t be unbiased. It ...
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The Art Of Forgetting

I’m not a psychiatrist, and although I work in the medical profession I mainly work in trauma. I have realised ...
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The Modern Shame – The Big ‘D’

Depression - The big 'D' I was doing one of my favourite past times yesterday. I was sitting in a ...
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The Fear Of Not being Believed

Not being believed is one thing, but having to retell the events over and over again to get people to ...
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The Quiet Man – Nature Verses Nurture

It was the rain tapping against the window that woke me this morning. I didn’t really have much planned to ...
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A Letter To My Older Self

Time goes so quickly When somebody mentions the 1990’s it feels like 5 years ago, but it isn’t, its nearly ...
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The Ex-Orcism Of The Ex

People are people When you sit back and think about it, it’s amazing that humans have any forms of relationships ...
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Self-Esteem And Its Legacy

We all have something in common. We either look at ourselves in the mirror when we wash or dress. Or ...
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Scapegoating A Victim

I have just finished reading an article about how, throughout time, societies have focused their attentions on specific groups or ...
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Talking To Someone With Depression

I have found that many people just don’t know what to say when they come across someone with depression. Especially ...
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Forgive – Why should you?

Religion preaches forgiveness Let’s make this clear from the start. I am not religious. I was brought up as a ...
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How To Hide Depression

I had a thought provoking conversation with a friend last night.  Out of respect, I won't mention his name, but ...
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Anxiety After Abuse

Anxiety is a good thing. It stops you from heading into dangerous or unusual situations. It is a normal reaction ...
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Love Bombing – How It Works.

This whole blogging experience has been like learning a new language. During one of my recent blogs I mentioned a ...
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My Father And I

I have two fathers. A natural father and an adoptive father. I will at some point talk about my adoptive ...
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Why Does Humiliation Hurt?

Over the past few weeks I have discovered something new about myself. I have become very observant about other people ...
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Gaslighting – How Does it Work

During my research for my blogs I have come across a number of phrases that I have never heard of ...
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Men Are Idiots – But Not All Idiots Are Men

Men are simple creatures I have had this conversation so many times with female friends who have tried to work ...
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Why Do We Deny Abuse When It Happens?

Denial works at the time of the abuse Denial in abusive relationships is a coping skill. At first, denial for ...
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Are Abusers Born To Abuse?

Before you read any further, I must stress that I am no expert on this subject and do not hold ...
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Living With A Partner Who Does Not Love You

Denial It is easy to refuse to accept the fact that the one you love does not love you anymore ...
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Families After Suicide

There are many ways to die but suicide may be the most painful way for those left behind. I don’t ...
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Adults Who Bully

Bullying is a negative behaviour regardless of how it is identified. Bullying in an adult relationship tends to be identified ...
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Socialising With Depression

When I say socialising with depression I don’t mean going for a drink with your mate who happens to be ...
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Why Are Good People Treated So badly?

We have all put up with being treated badly at some point in our lives. But if it happens in ...
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Is Financial Control A Form Of Abuse?

Financial control is another form of abuse by a problematic partner. The controlling of any monetary incoming and outgoing can ...
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PTSD Following An Abusive Relationship

Making sense of PTSD Having now left an abusive relationship I found that struggles began in other areas. PTSD (Post ...
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Is It Better For The Children To Stay In An Abusive Relationship?

Is it right to stay in a relationship because of the children? The decision to end a relationship, especially when ...
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Living after your relationship breakdown

The only long term relationship is with yourself The reality is this; all of the nice things have gone. In ...
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Planning to leave an abusive relationship

Leaving can be easier said than done Once you have realised that you are living in abusive home the only ...
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The freedom to choose my own clothes

The new taste of freedom I discovered the taste of individuality and freedom yesterday. This was a big step to take ...
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Living with a Nacissist

Hindsight is A Wonderful Thing Living with a narcissist is difficult to identify until you look at it with hindsight ...
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How to recognise if you are being emotionally abused

Is it fair to call it abuse? Sometimes, people wonder whether ‘abuse’ is the right term to describe any relationship ...
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Male victim of sexual assault by a female partner

Sexual assault by a female partner Being sexually assaulted by your partner is perhaps the most difficult fact to admit ...
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Feeling guilt over a failed relationship

Feelings of guilt over a failed relationship I can now see that the abuse in my relationship arose over time ...
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When depression makes you feel guilty

Depression stops you from getting things done When you are deep in to your depression everything is difficult to do ...
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The Importance of keeping a record

The Importance Of Keeping a Record It is typical of men to not want to cause a fuss or to ...
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Women are violent too – Accept it.

Violence Against Men is Less Recognised. Violence of any kind is not acceptable, and violence against any gender or sex ...
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Being a bloke means you can’t take medication

Why don't men take medications? I would consider myself to be a ‘blokey bloke’ and as a result taking medication ...
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Does Blonde Hair and Blue Eyes Make a Difference? – Public Persona verses True Characteristics

My major concern throughout all of this has been whether I will be believed or not. It took a massive ...
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A positive day from strangers

Help from other organisations As you are probably aware I have worked hard on this site and I have attempted ...
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Dealing with daily concerns and pending court case

Difficult day I've found today fairly difficult. Of course, I'm still doing my routine of getting up and taking my ...
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How common are sleep problems in depression?

Depression and Sleeping Depression is often connected to problems with sleep. It can either be too much sleep (hypersomnia), or ...
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Do male domestic abuse victims get arrested?

The Police are failing male victims of domestic abuse I came across this article today written by an ex policeman ...
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Law and the Male Victim of Domestic Abuse – Khawaja Akbar.

Law and the Male Victim of Domestic Abuse - Khawaja Akbar. Law-and-the-Male-Victim-of-Domestic-Violence-Khawaja-Akbar You only have to type in a few ...
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Ending a toxic relationship – recognise the time to leave

Happyness comes from making decisions Sometimes, happiness comes from making tough decisions about our relationships. Ending a toxic relationship is ...
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I’ve been busy keeping myself busy – a good way of feeling better?

It's good to keep busy. Have a routine I've quickly learnt that I don't like sitting there and doing nothing ...
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My relationship with Sertraline. Is it ok to consider medication?

Why don't men like taking pills? I must admit I've never really been a big fan of pills. My arm ...
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How to recognise if you are being sexually, financially, emotionally, psychologically or physically abused

Being abused by your partner There is a level of shame to admitting that you are being abused regardless of ...
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How mood can change so quickly. It’s ok to say “I’m not ok” and be unwell.

Things can change so quickly It's amazing how things can change so quickly. One day I'm a family man and ...
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Depression. Why are men so bad at admitting that they have it?

What is the difference between depression and feeling down? There is a clear difference between depression and feeling down. To ...
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Why does she need to speak to my family? To tell lies and justify her bad behaviour

Why does she need to contact my family? As part of my bail conditions I am not allowed to return ...
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Lets talk about it. Does counselling help?

Taking the step to seek support Does counselling help? For the first time I decided to open up about what ...
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What now, what next? – What happened when I left an abusive relationship.

Following my arrest I appeared at the magistrates court. I pleaded not guilty and so was bailed to appear before ...
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Why am I doing this? I need to speak out about what happened.

What happened at home - behind closed doors. I have never felt so lost in  my life. I'm a 45 ...
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