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Third world treatment for second class citizens in a first world nation

I could start and leave this blog by just saying it is all ‘disgraceful’. But that would be an utter ...
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Blood sports

I don’t know much about TV around the world but in the UK we have a chat show whereby certain ...
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Guest Blog – The Recovery Village

I was having an open and frank conversation with a senior police officer on the 2nd May and it was ...
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The Armchair Terrorist

A few years ago I was on a flight sitting next to a window. As always with flying, although I ...
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Why stoop to their level?

I’ve had a bit of a strange week this week. Some high and some low points but always times of ...
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Settling back

I suppose now having returned back to work full time it would be reasonable to reflect on how it has ...
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Human Progress and Isolation

It is surprising how powerful the mind can be when you think about it. Many times, over these past few ...
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Histrionic Personality Disorder

When it comes to thinking or sharing thoughts, being a paramedic has its advantage. When I am not working alone ...
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Stereotypes feed into injustice

With the advantage of social media and the ability to be able to spread ideas and thoughts further than ever ...
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More people die from suicide than in all of the worlds conflicts

The recent opportunities given to me to spend time researching has opened many educational, philosophical and social pathways. I am ...
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Guest Blog – Elena Perella # 2

Like so many other bloggers I take great delight in hearing from my readers. For me it is not only ...
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Motherhood

The term motherhood, or mother, holds so many connotations, views, memories and experiences. Indeed, the whole concept of motherhood can ...
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Guest Blog – Elena Perella

It’s always nice to hear from people who can relate to what I write. Today I had the privilege of ...
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Contract to publish

I won’t say or even claim that it has been easy, but I felt a little bit of relief this ...
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Daughters

Sugar and spice? I remember as a small child going to a hairdresser to have my curly locks cut (for ...
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The philosophy of returning to work

I should have written this blog three days ago as I returned to work following my period of absence. My ...
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Stages of truth

Formula It is amazing how often complicated things can become simple once you get an understanding of its concepts, flows ...
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Education is not ignorance

There is no job more important than education. From our early years we attend school to learn to read and ...
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The Art of Staying Quiet

I used to enjoy art at school. I must confess that I could never have claimed to be good at ...
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Recovery

Very often a change in your views or conceptions doesn’t actually hit you until something ‘clicks’ in your head. This ...
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False Accusers #2 – historical and psychological aspect

For anyone who has been accused of a crime that they did not commit is beyond any form of explanation ...
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Splits in ideology

The celebration this week with regards to the votes for women is certainly worth celebrating although the facts have been ...
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Published (nearly)

I very much doubt that you would remember but on the 23rd October 2017, I wrote a blog questioning whether ...
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Guest Blog – Blithe Conway

Other writers When I look back on the past few months whilst writing these blogs of mine I have come ...
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False accusers

Criminal Law Act 1967 Due to my research and investigations certain peoples stories keep heading my way. This may be ...
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Ignorantia juris non excusat

Back in 2012 I was driving through a village in Yorkshire. It was nothing remarkable, I was listening to my ...
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Privilege?

Why is it some people never grow up? Okay, people do grow up in a physical sense, but the same ...
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An inconvenient truth.

I love the phrase ‘an inconvenient truth’. It has so many connotations and meanings. Some truths are hidden and some ...
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Rights and responsibilities

I don’t know whether it’s just me but sometimes I might hear something and it sits with me for a ...
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The New Witch-Finder General

I’m not going to beat about the bush. I love history. It has always been a favourite subject of mine ...
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Dystopia

English literature is littered with fantastic novels. We have been fortunate to have access to books that have been written ...
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Legal (F)Aid

I would never claim to be a socialist, but I have read the works of Karl Marx (1818 – 1883) ...
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A Happy Goodbye to 2017.

I recall a conversation many years ago whilst studying for my A levels. During this conversation we were discussing a ...
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Who on earth are policing the police?

Time after time I have written and rewritten the start of this blog and even now I can honestly say ...
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More than a coincidence?

I recently said to somebody that I believe I have learnt more after leaving school than whilst I was there ...
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Code of Practice

Following my last blog about the continued failure of the police, I received a letter from the CPS (Crown Prosecution ...
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Well, isn’t that a surprise. Another police failure.

I don’t easily get cross or angry. I would like to think that this a good characteristic about myself. I ...
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Next Chapter, New Beginnings

When we read a gripping novel we are always keen to know what happens next. If you are a writer ...
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My ex has been arrested

I usually pride myself on my use of words, but I have sat hovering over this keyboard for a while ...
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To publish or not to publish?

I’ve had a thought. To be honest I’ve had this thought for a while. But I am considering publishing parts ...
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Professional responsibility

I have read and re-read this page before posting it and unfortunately it may seem like I’m ranting. I have ...
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Complaint outcomes

It is only now the tide has turned I have a confession to make. I have held on to recent ...
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Formal complaint to the police

Well, I’ve finally done it. I’ve made a formal complaint to the Independent Police Complaints Commission (IPCC). I just can't ...
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Abusers choose strong people because they ‘like a challenge’

It has often been said that time is a great healer. I think there is an element of truth in ...
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Psychology of Dressing Well

I’ve spent the last few days reflecting on events and what I have discovered is that I hate to use ...
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Regrets

Regrets. It’s such a simple word that holds so many meanings but it appears to be a word of self-reflection ...
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Nightmares

I recall as a child often waking in the night after a nightmare. After all of these years I cannot ...
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Injustice Is Allowed To Continue

I awoke this morning recalling a moment many years ago that happened when I was at school. Yes, it was ...
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The Benefits Of Saying No

I’ve had a realisation today that may have been responsible for most of my problems. I have always found it ...
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Physical Pain and Anxiety

I have recently written a couple of blogs about feelings post stressful situations. If you recall I wrote about not ...
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Why Am I So Tired All Of The Time?

I’ve not written much lately. This is partly for a number of reasons. Firstly, I want to slow down my ...
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Just Feeling A Little…Lost

If you are a regular follower of my blogs you will probably have noticed that I have slowed down somewhat ...
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Pessimism. Who Needs It? What Could Possibly Be The Attractions?

I’ve had an interesting day today. I had an interview for a job which went surprisingly well, although I probably ...
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Is Feeling Nothing An Emotion? – Court Hearing

Is it right to feel nothing? I have held off from writing this particular blog. It’s not a negative one ...
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What It Feels Like To Want To Die

It wasn’t really a request that has drawn me to my keyboard today but a series of conversations that I ...
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This Is My Advice

It’s been a funny week. A lot has happened. I am aware that for a few people it has been ...
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Enough Is Enough

It’s 23:55 here in England as I write this blog. Yes, it is late for me as I love my ...
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Making Sense Of It All

To have an identity. As a child it doesn’t really matter, as a teenager it’s everything but as an adult ...
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People With Depression.

It recently dawned on me that I’m part of an exclusive club. I don’t wear a badge or carry a ...
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Police Failure

I absolutely love writing. I also pride myself in writing fair and unbiased opinions. However, this won’t be unbiased. It ...
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The Art Of Forgetting

I’m not a psychiatrist, and although I work in the medical profession I mainly work in trauma. I have realised ...
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The Modern Shame – The Big ‘D’

Depression - The big 'D' I was doing one of my favourite past times yesterday. I was sitting in a ...
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The Fear Of Not being Believed

Not being believed is one thing, but having to retell the events over and over again to get people to ...
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The Quiet Man – Nature Verses Nurture

It was the rain tapping against the window that woke me this morning. I didn’t really have much planned to ...
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A Letter To My Older Self

Time goes so quickly When somebody mentions the 1990’s it feels like 5 years ago, but it isn’t, its nearly ...
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The Ex-Orcism Of The Ex

People are people When you sit back and think about it, it’s amazing that humans have any forms of relationships ...
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Self-Esteem And Its Legacy

We all have something in common. We either look at ourselves in the mirror when we wash or dress. Or ...
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Scapegoating A Victim

I have just finished reading an article about how, throughout time, societies have focused their attentions on specific groups or ...
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Talking To Someone With Depression

I have found that many people just don’t know what to say when they come across someone with depression. Especially ...
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Forgive – Why should you?

Religion preaches forgiveness Let’s make this clear from the start. I am not religious. I was brought up as a ...
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How To Hide Depression

I had a thought provoking conversation with a friend last night.  Out of respect, I won't mention his name, but ...
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Anxiety After Abuse

Anxiety is a good thing. It stops you from heading into dangerous or unusual situations. It is a normal reaction ...
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Love Bombing – How It Works.

This whole blogging experience has been like learning a new language. During one of my recent blogs I mentioned a ...
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My Father And I

I have two fathers. A natural father and an adoptive father. I will at some point talk about my adoptive ...
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Why Does Humiliation Hurt?

Over the past few weeks I have discovered something new about myself. I have become very observant about other people ...
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Gaslighting – How Does it Work

During my research for my blogs I have come across a number of phrases that I have never heard of ...
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Men Are Idiots – But Not All Idiots Are Men

Men are simple creatures I have had this conversation so many times with female friends who have tried to work ...
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Why Do We Deny Abuse When It Happens?

Denial works at the time of the abuse Denial in abusive relationships is a coping skill. At first, denial for ...
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Are Abusers Born To Abuse?

Before you read any further, I must stress that I am no expert on this subject and do not hold ...
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Living With A Partner Who Does Not Love You

Denial It is easy to refuse to accept the fact that the one you love does not love you anymore ...
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Families After Suicide

There are many ways to die but suicide may be the most painful way for those left behind. I don’t ...
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Adults Who Bully

Bullying is a negative behaviour regardless of how it is identified. Bullying in an adult relationship tends to be identified ...
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Socialising With Depression

When I say socialising with depression I don’t mean going for a drink with your mate who happens to be ...
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Why Are Good People Treated So badly?

We have all put up with being treated badly at some point in our lives. But if it happens in ...
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Is Financial Control A Form Of Abuse?

Financial control is another form of abuse by a problematic partner. The controlling of any monetary incoming and outgoing can ...
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PTSD Following An Abusive Relationship

Making sense of PTSD Having now left an abusive relationship I found that struggles began in other areas. PTSD (Post ...
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Is It Better For The Children To Stay In An Abusive Relationship?

Is it right to stay in a relationship because of the children? The decision to end a relationship, especially when ...
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Living after your relationship breakdown

The only long term relationship is with yourself The reality is this; all of the nice things have gone. In ...
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Planning to leave an abusive relationship

Leaving can be easier said than done Once you have realised that you are living in abusive home the only ...
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The freedom to choose my own clothes

The new taste of freedom I discovered the taste of individuality and freedom yesterday. This was a big step to take ...
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Living with a Nacissist

Hindsight is A Wonderful Thing Living with a narcissist is difficult to identify until you look at it with hindsight ...
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How to recognise if you are being emotionally abused

Is it fair to call it abuse? Sometimes, people wonder whether ‘abuse’ is the right term to describe any relationship ...
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Male victim of sexual assault by a female partner

Sexual assault by a female partner Being sexually assaulted by your partner is perhaps the most difficult fact to admit ...
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Feeling guilt over a failed relationship

Feelings of guilt over a failed relationship I can now see that the abuse in my relationship arose over time ...
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When depression makes you feel guilty

Depression stops you from getting things done When you are deep in to your depression everything is difficult to do ...
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The Importance of keeping a record

The Importance Of Keeping a Record It is typical of men to not want to cause a fuss or to ...
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Women are violent too – Accept it.

Violence Against Men is Less Recognised. Violence of any kind is not acceptable, and violence against any gender or sex ...
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Being a bloke means you can’t take medication

Why don't men take medications? I would consider myself to be a ‘blokey bloke’ and as a result taking medication ...
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Does Blonde Hair and Blue Eyes Make a Difference? – Public Persona verses True Characteristics

My major concern throughout all of this has been whether I will be believed or not. It took a massive ...
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A positive day from strangers

Help from other organisations As you are probably aware I have worked hard on this site and I have attempted ...
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