Keith's Story – Male Victim of Domestic Abuse & Depression

Regrets. It’s such a simple word that holds so many meanings but it appears to be a word of self-reflection ...
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I recall as a child often waking in the night after a nightmare. After all of these years I cannot ...
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I awoke this morning recalling a moment many years ago that happened when I was at school. Yes, it was ...
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I’ve had a realisation today that may have been responsible for most of my problems. I have always found it ...
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I have recently written a couple of blogs about feelings post stressful situations. If you recall I wrote about not ...
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I’ve not written much lately. This is partly for a number of reasons. Firstly, I want to slow down my ...
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If you are a regular follower of my blogs you will probably have noticed that I have slowed down somewhat ...
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I’ve had an interesting day today. I had an interview for a job which went surprisingly well, although I probably ...
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Is it right to feel nothing? I have held off from writing this particular blog. It’s not a negative one ...
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It wasn’t really a request that has drawn me to my keyboard today but a series of conversations that I ...
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It’s been a funny week. A lot has happened. I am aware that for a few people it has been ...
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It’s 23:55 here in England as I write this blog. Yes, it is late for me as I love my ...
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To have an identity. As a child it doesn’t really matter, as a teenager it’s everything but as an adult ...
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It recently dawned on me that I’m part of an exclusive club. I don’t wear a badge or carry a ...
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I absolutely love writing. I also pride myself in writing fair and unbiased opinions. However, this won’t be unbiased. It ...
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I’m not a psychiatrist, and although I work in the medical profession I mainly work in trauma. I have realised ...
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Depression - The big 'D' I was doing one of my favourite past times yesterday. I was sitting in a ...
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Not being believed is one thing, but having to retell the events over and over again to get people to ...
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It was the rain tapping against the window that woke me this morning. I didn’t really have much planned to ...
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Time goes so quickly When somebody mentions the 1990’s it feels like 5 years ago, but it isn’t, its nearly ...
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People are people When you sit back and think about it, it’s amazing that humans have any forms of relationships ...
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We all have something in common. We either look at ourselves in the mirror when we wash or dress. Or ...
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I have just finished reading an article about how, throughout time, societies have focused their attentions on specific groups or ...
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I have found that many people just don’t know what to say when they come across someone with depression. Especially ...
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Religion preaches forgiveness Let’s make this clear from the start. I am not religious. I was brought up as a ...
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I had a thought provoking conversation with a friend last night.  Out of respect, I won't mention his name, but ...
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Anxiety is a good thing. It stops you from heading into dangerous or unusual situations. It is a normal reaction ...
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This whole blogging experience has been like learning a new language. During one of my recent blogs I mentioned a ...
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I have two fathers. A natural father and an adoptive father. I will at some point talk about my adoptive ...
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Over the past few weeks I have discovered something new about myself. I have become very observant about other people ...
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During my research for my blogs I have come across a number of phrases that I have never heard of ...
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Men are simple creatures I have had this conversation so many times with female friends who have tried to work ...
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Denial works at the time of the abuse Denial in abusive relationships is a coping skill. At first, denial for ...
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Before you read any further, I must stress that I am no expert on this subject and do not hold ...
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Denial It is easy to refuse to accept the fact that the one you love does not love you anymore ...
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There are many ways to die but suicide may be the most painful way for those left behind. I don’t ...
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Bullying is a negative behaviour regardless of how it is identified. Bullying in an adult relationship tends to be identified ...
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When I say socialising with depression I don’t mean going for a drink with your mate who happens to be ...
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We have all put up with being treated badly at some point in our lives. But if it happens in ...
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Financial control is another form of abuse by a problematic partner. The controlling of any monetary incoming and outgoing can ...
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Making sense of PTSD Having now left an abusive relationship I found that struggles began in other areas. PTSD (Post ...
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Is it right to stay in a relationship because of the children? The decision to end a relationship, especially when ...
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The only long term relationship is with yourself The reality is this; all of the nice things have gone. In ...
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Leaving can be easier said than done Once you have realised that you are living in abusive home the only ...
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The new taste of freedom I discovered the taste of individuality and freedom yesterday. This was a big step to take ...
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Hindsight is A Wonderful Thing Living with a narcissist is difficult to identify until you look at it with hindsight ...
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Is it fair to call it abuse? Sometimes, people wonder whether ‘abuse’ is the right term to describe any relationship ...
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Sexual assault by a female partner Being sexually assaulted by your partner is perhaps the most difficult fact to admit ...
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Feelings of guilt over a failed relationship I can now see that the abuse in my relationship arose over time ...
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Depression stops you from getting things done When you are deep in to your depression everything is difficult to do ...
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The Importance Of Keeping a Record It is typical of men to not want to cause a fuss or to ...
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Violence Against Men is Less Recognised. Violence of any kind is not acceptable, and violence against any gender or sex ...
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Why don't men take medications? I would consider myself to be a ‘blokey bloke’ and as a result taking medication ...
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My major concern throughout all of this has been whether I will be believed or not. It took a massive ...
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Help from other organisations As you are probably aware I have worked hard on this site and I have attempted ...
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Difficult day I've found today fairly difficult. Of course, I'm still doing my routine of getting up and taking my ...
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Depression and Sleeping Depression is often connected to problems with sleep. It can either be too much sleep (hypersomnia), or ...
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The Police are failing male victims of domestic abuse I came across this article today written by an ex policeman ...
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Law and the Male Victim of Domestic Abuse - Khawaja Akbar. Law-and-the-Male-Victim-of-Domestic-Violence-Khawaja-Akbar You only have to type in a few ...
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Happyness comes from making decisions Sometimes, happiness comes from making tough decisions about our relationships. Ending a toxic relationship is ...
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It's good to keep busy. Have a routine I've quickly learnt that I don't like sitting there and doing nothing ...
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Why don't men like taking pills? I must admit I've never really been a big fan of pills. My arm ...
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Being abused by your partner There is a level of shame to admitting that you are being abused regardless of ...
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Things can change so quickly It's amazing how things can change so quickly. One day I'm a family man and ...
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What is the difference between depression and feeling down? There is a clear difference between depression and feeling down. To ...
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Why does she need to contact my family? As part of my bail conditions I am not allowed to return ...
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Taking the step to seek support Does counselling help? For the first time I decided to open up about what ...
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Following my arrest I appeared at the magistrates court. I pleaded not guilty and so was bailed to appear before ...
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What happened at home - behind closed doors. I have never felt so lost in  my life. I'm a 45 ...
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