Keith's Story – Male Victim of Domestic Abuse & Depression

Nearly 25 years ago I won sole custody of my sons. Just saying it like that makes it sound so ...
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History is littered with the ‘great and the good’ but the real people who make a difference are not those ...
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It is often said that we now live in a disposable society and that capitalism has taken away the concept ...
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I could start and leave this blog by just saying it is all ‘disgraceful’. But that would be an utter ...
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I don’t know much about TV around the world but in the UK we have a chat show whereby certain ...
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I was having an open and frank conversation with a senior police officer on the 2nd May and it was ...
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A few years ago I was on a flight sitting next to a window. As always with flying, although I ...
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I suppose now having returned back to work full time it would be reasonable to reflect on how it has ...
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It is surprising how powerful the mind can be when you think about it. Many times, over these past few ...
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When it comes to thinking or sharing thoughts, being a paramedic has its advantage. When I am not working alone ...
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With the advantage of social media and the ability to be able to spread ideas and thoughts further than ever ...
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The recent opportunities given to me to spend time researching has opened many educational, philosophical and social pathways. I am ...
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Like so many other bloggers I take great delight in hearing from my readers. For me it is not only ...
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The term motherhood, or mother, holds so many connotations, views, memories and experiences. Indeed, the whole concept of motherhood can ...
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It’s always nice to hear from people who can relate to what I write. Today I had the privilege of ...
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I won’t say or even claim that it has been easy, but I felt a little bit of relief this ...
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Sugar and spice? I remember as a small child going to a hairdresser to have my curly locks cut (for ...
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I should have written this blog three days ago as I returned to work following my period of absence. My ...
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Formula It is amazing how often complicated things can become simple once you get an understanding of its concepts, flows ...
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There is no job more important than education. From our early years we attend school to learn to read and ...
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I used to enjoy art at school. I must confess that I could never have claimed to be good at ...
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Very often a change in your views or conceptions doesn’t actually hit you until something ‘clicks’ in your head. This ...
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For anyone who has been accused of a crime that they did not commit is beyond any form of explanation ...
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The celebration this week with regards to the votes for women is certainly worth celebrating although the facts have been ...
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I very much doubt that you would remember but on the 23rd October 2017, I wrote a blog questioning whether ...
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Other writers When I look back on the past few months whilst writing these blogs of mine I have come ...
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Criminal Law Act 1967 Due to my research and investigations certain peoples stories keep heading my way. This may be ...
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Back in 2012 I was driving through a village in Yorkshire. It was nothing remarkable, I was listening to my ...
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Why is it some people never grow up? Okay, people do grow up in a physical sense, but the same ...
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I love the phrase ‘an inconvenient truth’. It has so many connotations and meanings. Some truths are hidden and some ...
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I don’t know whether it’s just me but sometimes I might hear something and it sits with me for a ...
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I’m not going to beat about the bush. I love history. It has always been a favourite subject of mine ...
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English literature is littered with fantastic novels. We have been fortunate to have access to books that have been written ...
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I would never claim to be a socialist, but I have read the works of Karl Marx (1818 – 1883) ...
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I recall a conversation many years ago whilst studying for my A levels. During this conversation we were discussing a ...
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Time after time I have written and rewritten the start of this blog and even now I can honestly say ...
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I recently said to somebody that I believe I have learnt more after leaving school than whilst I was there ...
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Following my last blog about the continued failure of the police, I received a letter from the CPS (Crown Prosecution ...
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I don’t easily get cross or angry. I would like to think that this a good characteristic about myself. I ...
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When we read a gripping novel we are always keen to know what happens next. If you are a writer ...
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I usually pride myself on my use of words, but I have sat hovering over this keyboard for a while ...
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I’ve had a thought. To be honest I’ve had this thought for a while. But I am considering publishing parts ...
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I have read and re-read this page before posting it and unfortunately it may seem like I’m ranting. I have ...
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It is only now the tide has turned I have a confession to make. I have held on to recent ...
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Well, I’ve finally done it. I’ve made a formal complaint to the Independent Police Complaints Commission (IPCC). I just can't ...
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It has often been said that time is a great healer. I think there is an element of truth in ...
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I’ve spent the last few days reflecting on events and what I have discovered is that I hate to use ...
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Regrets. It’s such a simple word that holds so many meanings but it appears to be a word of self-reflection ...
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I recall as a child often waking in the night after a nightmare. After all of these years I cannot ...
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I awoke this morning recalling a moment many years ago that happened when I was at school. Yes, it was ...
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I’ve had a realisation today that may have been responsible for most of my problems. I have always found it ...
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I have recently written a couple of blogs about feelings post stressful situations. If you recall I wrote about not ...
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I’ve not written much lately. This is partly for a number of reasons. Firstly, I want to slow down my ...
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If you are a regular follower of my blogs you will probably have noticed that I have slowed down somewhat ...
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I’ve had an interesting day today. I had an interview for a job which went surprisingly well, although I probably ...
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Is it right to feel nothing? I have held off from writing this particular blog. It’s not a negative one ...
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It wasn’t really a request that has drawn me to my keyboard today but a series of conversations that I ...
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It’s been a funny week. A lot has happened. I am aware that for a few people it has been ...
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It’s 23:55 here in England as I write this blog. Yes, it is late for me as I love my ...
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To have an identity. As a child it doesn’t really matter, as a teenager it’s everything but as an adult ...
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It recently dawned on me that I’m part of an exclusive club. I don’t wear a badge or carry a ...
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I absolutely love writing. I also pride myself in writing fair and unbiased opinions. However, this won’t be unbiased. It ...
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I’m not a psychiatrist, and although I work in the medical profession I mainly work in trauma. I have realised ...
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Depression - The big 'D' I was doing one of my favourite past times yesterday. I was sitting in a ...
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Not being believed is one thing, but having to retell the events over and over again to get people to ...
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It was the rain tapping against the window that woke me this morning. I didn’t really have much planned to ...
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Time goes so quickly When somebody mentions the 1990’s it feels like 5 years ago, but it isn’t, its nearly ...
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People are people When you sit back and think about it, it’s amazing that humans have any forms of relationships ...
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We all have something in common. We either look at ourselves in the mirror when we wash or dress. Or ...
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I have just finished reading an article about how, throughout time, societies have focused their attentions on specific groups or ...
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I have found that many people just don’t know what to say when they come across someone with depression. Especially ...
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Religion preaches forgiveness Let’s make this clear from the start. I am not religious. I was brought up as a ...
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I had a thought provoking conversation with a friend last night.  Out of respect, I won't mention his name, but ...
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Anxiety is a good thing. It stops you from heading into dangerous or unusual situations. It is a normal reaction ...
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This whole blogging experience has been like learning a new language. During one of my recent blogs I mentioned a ...
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I have two fathers. A natural father and an adoptive father. I will at some point talk about my adoptive ...
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Over the past few weeks I have discovered something new about myself. I have become very observant about other people ...
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During my research for my blogs I have come across a number of phrases that I have never heard of ...
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Men are simple creatures I have had this conversation so many times with female friends who have tried to work ...
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Denial works at the time of the abuse Denial in abusive relationships is a coping skill. At first, denial for ...
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Before you read any further, I must stress that I am no expert on this subject and do not hold ...
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Denial It is easy to refuse to accept the fact that the one you love does not love you anymore ...
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There are many ways to die but suicide may be the most painful way for those left behind. I don’t ...
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Bullying is a negative behaviour regardless of how it is identified. Bullying in an adult relationship tends to be identified ...
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When I say socialising with depression I don’t mean going for a drink with your mate who happens to be ...
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We have all put up with being treated badly at some point in our lives. But if it happens in ...
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Financial control is another form of abuse by a problematic partner. The controlling of any monetary incoming and outgoing can ...
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Making sense of PTSD Having now left an abusive relationship I found that struggles began in other areas. PTSD (Post ...
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Is it right to stay in a relationship because of the children? The decision to end a relationship, especially when ...
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The only long term relationship is with yourself The reality is this; all of the nice things have gone. In ...
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Leaving can be easier said than done Once you have realised that you are living in abusive home the only ...
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The new taste of freedom I discovered the taste of individuality and freedom yesterday. This was a big step to take ...
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Hindsight is A Wonderful Thing Living with a narcissist is difficult to identify until you look at it with hindsight ...
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Is it fair to call it abuse? Sometimes, people wonder whether ‘abuse’ is the right term to describe any relationship ...
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Sexual assault by a female partner Being sexually assaulted by your partner is perhaps the most difficult fact to admit ...
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Feelings of guilt over a failed relationship I can now see that the abuse in my relationship arose over time ...
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Depression stops you from getting things done When you are deep in to your depression everything is difficult to do ...
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The Importance Of Keeping a Record It is typical of men to not want to cause a fuss or to ...
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Violence Against Men is Less Recognised. Violence of any kind is not acceptable, and violence against any gender or sex ...
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Why don't men take medications? I would consider myself to be a ‘blokey bloke’ and as a result taking medication ...
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