
Human Progress and Isolation
It is surprising how powerful the mind can be when you think about it. Many times, over these past few ...
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Histrionic Personality Disorder
When it comes to thinking or sharing thoughts, being a paramedic has its advantage. When I am not working alone ...
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Stereotypes feed into injustice
With the advantage of social media and the ability to be able to spread ideas and thoughts further than ever ...
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More people die from suicide than in all of the worlds conflicts
The recent opportunities given to me to spend time researching has opened many educational, philosophical and social pathways. I am ...
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Guest Blog – Elena Perella # 2
Like so many other bloggers I take great delight in hearing from my readers. For me it is not only ...
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Motherhood
The term motherhood, or mother, holds so many connotations, views, memories and experiences. Indeed, the whole concept of motherhood can ...
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Guest Blog – Elena Perella
It’s always nice to hear from people who can relate to what I write. Today I had the privilege of ...
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Contract to publish
I won’t say or even claim that it has been easy, but I felt a little bit of relief this ...
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The philosophy of returning to work
I should have written this blog three days ago as I returned to work following my period of absence. My ...
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Stages of truth
Formula It is amazing how often complicated things can become simple once you get an understanding of its concepts, flows ...
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Education is not ignorance
There is no job more important than education. From our early years we attend school to learn to read and ...
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The Art of Staying Quiet
I used to enjoy art at school. I must confess that I could never have claimed to be good at ...
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False Accusers #2 – historical and psychological aspect
For anyone who has been accused of a crime that they did not commit is beyond any form of explanation ...
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Splits in ideology
The celebration this week with regards to the votes for women is certainly worth celebrating although the facts have been ...
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Published (nearly)
I very much doubt that you would remember but on the 23rd October 2017, I wrote a blog questioning whether ...
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Guest Blog – Blithe Conway
Other writers When I look back on the past few months whilst writing these blogs of mine I have come ...
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False accusers
Criminal Law Act 1967 Due to my research and investigations certain peoples stories keep heading my way. This may be ...
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Ignorantia juris non excusat
Back in 2012 I was driving through a village in Yorkshire. It was nothing remarkable, I was listening to my ...
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Privilege?
Why is it some people never grow up? Okay, people do grow up in a physical sense, but the same ...
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An inconvenient truth.
I love the phrase ‘an inconvenient truth’. It has so many connotations and meanings. Some truths are hidden and some ...
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Rights and responsibilities
I don’t know whether it’s just me but sometimes I might hear something and it sits with me for a ...
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The New Witch-Finder General
I’m not going to beat about the bush. I love history. It has always been a favourite subject of mine ...
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Legal (F)Aid
I would never claim to be a socialist, but I have read the works of Karl Marx (1818 – 1883) ...
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A Happy Goodbye to 2017.
I recall a conversation many years ago whilst studying for my A levels. During this conversation we were discussing a ...
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Who on earth are policing the police?
Time after time I have written and rewritten the start of this blog and even now I can honestly say ...
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More than a coincidence?
I recently said to somebody that I believe I have learnt more after leaving school than whilst I was there ...
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Code of Practice
Following my last blog about the continued failure of the police, I received a letter from the CPS (Crown Prosecution ...
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Well, isn’t that a surprise. Another police failure.
I don’t easily get cross or angry. I would like to think that this a good characteristic about myself. I ...
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Next Chapter, New Beginnings
When we read a gripping novel we are always keen to know what happens next. If you are a writer ...
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My ex has been arrested
I usually pride myself on my use of words, but I have sat hovering over this keyboard for a while ...
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To publish or not to publish?
I’ve had a thought. To be honest I’ve had this thought for a while. But I am considering publishing parts ...
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Professional responsibility
I have read and re-read this page before posting it and unfortunately it may seem like I’m ranting. I have ...
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Complaint outcomes
It is only now the tide has turned I have a confession to make. I have held on to recent ...
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Formal complaint to the police
Well, I’ve finally done it. I’ve made a formal complaint to the Independent Police Complaints Commission (IPCC). I just can't ...
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Abusers choose strong people because they ‘like a challenge’
It has often been said that time is a great healer. I think there is an element of truth in ...
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Psychology of Dressing Well
I’ve spent the last few days reflecting on events and what I have discovered is that I hate to use ...
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Nightmares
I recall as a child often waking in the night after a nightmare. After all of these years I cannot ...
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Injustice Is Allowed To Continue
I awoke this morning recalling a moment many years ago that happened when I was at school. Yes, it was ...
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The Benefits Of Saying No
I’ve had a realisation today that may have been responsible for most of my problems. I have always found it ...
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Physical Pain and Anxiety
I have recently written a couple of blogs about feelings post stressful situations. If you recall I wrote about not ...
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Why Am I So Tired All Of The Time?
I’ve not written much lately. This is partly for a number of reasons. Firstly, I want to slow down my ...
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Just Feeling A Little…Lost
If you are a regular follower of my blogs you will probably have noticed that I have slowed down somewhat ...
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Pessimism. Who Needs It? What Could Possibly Be The Attractions?
I’ve had an interesting day today. I had an interview for a job which went surprisingly well, although I probably ...
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Is Feeling Nothing An Emotion? – Court Hearing
Is it right to feel nothing? I have held off from writing this particular blog. It’s not a negative one ...
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What It Feels Like To Want To Die
It wasn’t really a request that has drawn me to my keyboard today but a series of conversations that I ...
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This Is My Advice
It’s been a funny week. A lot has happened. I am aware that for a few people it has been ...
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Enough Is Enough
It’s 23:55 here in England as I write this blog. Yes, it is late for me as I love my ...
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Making Sense Of It All
To have an identity. As a child it doesn’t really matter, as a teenager it’s everything but as an adult ...
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People With Depression.
It recently dawned on me that I’m part of an exclusive club. I don’t wear a badge or carry a ...
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Police Failure
I absolutely love writing. I also pride myself in writing fair and unbiased opinions. However, this won’t be unbiased. It ...
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The Art Of Forgetting
I’m not a psychiatrist, and although I work in the medical profession I mainly work in trauma. I have realised ...
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The Modern Shame – The Big ‘D’
Depression - The big 'D' I was doing one of my favourite past times yesterday. I was sitting in a ...
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The Fear Of Not being Believed
Not being believed is one thing, but having to retell the events over and over again to get people to ...
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The Quiet Man – Nature Verses Nurture
It was the rain tapping against the window that woke me this morning. I didn’t really have much planned to ...
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A Letter To My Older Self
Time goes so quickly When somebody mentions the 1990’s it feels like 5 years ago, but it isn’t, its nearly ...
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The Ex-Orcism Of The Ex
People are people When you sit back and think about it, it’s amazing that humans have any forms of relationships ...
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Self-Esteem And Its Legacy
We all have something in common. We either look at ourselves in the mirror when we wash or dress. Or ...
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Scapegoating A Victim
I have just finished reading an article about how, throughout time, societies have focused their attentions on specific groups or ...
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Talking To Someone With Depression
I have found that many people just don’t know what to say when they come across someone with depression. Especially ...
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Forgive – Why should you?
Religion preaches forgiveness Let’s make this clear from the start. I am not religious. I was brought up as a ...
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How To Hide Depression
I had a thought provoking conversation with a friend last night. Out of respect, I won't mention his name, but ...
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Anxiety After Abuse
Anxiety is a good thing. It stops you from heading into dangerous or unusual situations. It is a normal reaction ...
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Love Bombing – How It Works.
This whole blogging experience has been like learning a new language. During one of my recent blogs I mentioned a ...
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My Father And I
I have two fathers. A natural father and an adoptive father. I will at some point talk about my adoptive ...
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Why Does Humiliation Hurt?
Over the past few weeks I have discovered something new about myself. I have become very observant about other people ...
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Gaslighting – How Does it Work
During my research for my blogs I have come across a number of phrases that I have never heard of ...
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Men Are Idiots – But Not All Idiots Are Men
Men are simple creatures I have had this conversation so many times with female friends who have tried to work ...
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Why Do We Deny Abuse When It Happens?
Denial works at the time of the abuse Denial in abusive relationships is a coping skill. At first, denial for ...
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Are Abusers Born To Abuse?
Before you read any further, I must stress that I am no expert on this subject and do not hold ...
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Living With A Partner Who Does Not Love You
Denial It is easy to refuse to accept the fact that the one you love does not love you anymore ...
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Families After Suicide
There are many ways to die but suicide may be the most painful way for those left behind. I don’t ...
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Adults Who Bully
Bullying is a negative behaviour regardless of how it is identified. Bullying in an adult relationship tends to be identified ...
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Socialising With Depression
When I say socialising with depression I don’t mean going for a drink with your mate who happens to be ...
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Why Are Good People Treated So badly?
We have all put up with being treated badly at some point in our lives. But if it happens in ...
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Is Financial Control A Form Of Abuse?
Financial control is another form of abuse by a problematic partner. The controlling of any monetary incoming and outgoing can ...
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PTSD Following An Abusive Relationship
Making sense of PTSD Having now left an abusive relationship I found that struggles began in other areas. PTSD (Post ...
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Is It Better For The Children To Stay In An Abusive Relationship?
Is it right to stay in a relationship because of the children? The decision to end a relationship, especially when ...
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Living after your relationship breakdown
The only long term relationship is with yourself The reality is this; all of the nice things have gone. In ...
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Planning to leave an abusive relationship
Leaving can be easier said than done Once you have realised that you are living in abusive home the only ...
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The freedom to choose my own clothes
The new taste of freedom I discovered the taste of individuality and freedom yesterday. This was a big step to take ...
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Living with a Nacissist
Hindsight is A Wonderful Thing Living with a narcissist is difficult to identify until you look at it with hindsight ...
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How to recognise if you are being emotionally abused
Is it fair to call it abuse? Sometimes, people wonder whether ‘abuse’ is the right term to describe any relationship ...
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Male victim of sexual assault by a female partner
Sexual assault by a female partner Being sexually assaulted by your partner is perhaps the most difficult fact to admit ...
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Feeling guilt over a failed relationship
Feelings of guilt over a failed relationship I can now see that the abuse in my relationship arose over time ...
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When depression makes you feel guilty
Depression stops you from getting things done When you are deep in to your depression everything is difficult to do ...
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The Importance of keeping a record
The Importance Of Keeping a Record It is typical of men to not want to cause a fuss or to ...
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Women are violent too – Accept it.
Violence Against Men is Less Recognised. Violence of any kind is not acceptable, and violence against any gender or sex ...
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Being a bloke means you can’t take medication
Why don't men take medications? I would consider myself to be a ‘blokey bloke’ and as a result taking medication ...
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Does Blonde Hair and Blue Eyes Make a Difference? – Public Persona verses True Characteristics
My major concern throughout all of this has been whether I will be believed or not. It took a massive ...
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A positive day from strangers
Help from other organisations As you are probably aware I have worked hard on this site and I have attempted ...
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Dealing with daily concerns and pending court case
Difficult day I've found today fairly difficult. Of course, I'm still doing my routine of getting up and taking my ...
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How common are sleep problems in depression?
Depression and Sleeping Depression is often connected to problems with sleep. It can either be too much sleep (hypersomnia), or ...
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Do male domestic abuse victims get arrested?
The Police are failing male victims of domestic abuse I came across this article today written by an ex policeman ...
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Law and the Male Victim of Domestic Abuse – Khawaja Akbar.
Law and the Male Victim of Domestic Abuse - Khawaja Akbar. Law-and-the-Male-Victim-of-Domestic-Violence-Khawaja-Akbar You only have to type in a few ...
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Ending a toxic relationship – recognise the time to leave
Happyness comes from making decisions Sometimes, happiness comes from making tough decisions about our relationships. Ending a toxic relationship is ...
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I’ve been busy keeping myself busy – a good way of feeling better?
It's good to keep busy. Have a routine I've quickly learnt that I don't like sitting there and doing nothing ...
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